After getting married to hubby, I changed churches and started going to his church with him. However, before then, I attended church with my family. There was a particular person at my church who would always come up to me after church whenever she saw me just to say hi. After a while, I also developed a liking for her too because I thought she was so sweet (not saying she isn't anymore...lol). Anyways, after I became pregnant and it became news to the church, this person's attitude towards me changed drastically. I mean, a full 360. She stopped speaking to me and not only that, she started ignoring me. I would see her in the hallway and she would act like she didn't see me. I would even come up to her and give her a hug which was always awkward because it seemed like she didn't care for it. For some time, I thought it was all in my head, but it wasn't. I knew this because the person made a comment to my sister about her marrying the right way (baby after getting married), which I clearly didn't do. Of course! I wasn't crazy! Her attitude towards me did change.
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I just think it's amazing how sometimes as Christians we can be so unforgiving (not that I need her to forgive me, I have a God and He already forgave me before I even knew I would ever get pregnant before marriage). We wonder why unbelievers get turned off so easily by our attitudes. We get saved and become holier than thou and forget we were also down at some point before God picked us up. Heck! We're still down! Personally, I'm not bothered by her attitude. I don't even ever think about her until I see her at the church when I come to visit. The only reason why I even decided to blog about this is because JUST two weeks ago I was at the church and she ignored me again even though I was saying hi to people she was talking to! I still gave her a hug though. Lol. Some people may call it fake but honestly, I don't have an issue with her. If anything, it's quite comical to me. If I treat her the way she's treating me, that would mean I'm also harboring something against her and seriously, I ain't gat time fo dat. Even though I made a mistake, I have moved on in life. A great life for that matter! I would think that she would even let go after seeing that now I have a family and things are working out well for us. I would see reason with her attitude if I did some thing that affected her directly, like steal from her, but no...
Moral of the story, "I thank God that He is NOT like man"
God is always there for us and He knew your destiny, and no matter what we do He is the only one who judges and forgives us. Men can always talk or behave in their own manner, one thing I have grown to really like about you has been your disposition even through that time. It all worked out for good! Love your blog and must tell you that you unknowingly helped a girl in the same predicament choose to give birth to her child. :) Continue and God will continue to bless you as you have blessed others!
ReplyDeleteShe first and foremost needs to get a life. You did not make a mistake sweetie. You got your blessings. God makes all things beautiful in his time. You have such a beautiful and happy family. You may not know me but I have grown to love your blog and get inspired by it. She needs to go and repent. Some people try to steal people's joy. She can see the glory of God on your life and it is killing her. I once had a so called friend who got very bitter the moment I got engaged. People get bitter about the things they can never have. I betchu she must be single. You are awesome and so is your family
ReplyDeleteComment 1 - Wow. Reading your comment almost brought tears to my eyes. That is the whole point of this blog. That means so much to me. So much! Thanks for reading!
ReplyDeleteComment 2 - I'm not worried about her. Lol. Thank so much for the sweet comments and for following my blog. I appreciate it!
My dear, I commend you for not letting it bother you. Who are we humans to judge? People make mistakes and God forgives them. It's not like you murdered or stole. You got pregnant and had a beautiful, healthy child...Praise God! The most important thing is that you got your husband who loves you, and you have two beautiful and healthy kids. Every other thing or person is secondary and will be A-OK!!!
ReplyDeleteI think her behavior is childish and unnecessary, but again, she will be okay.
All the best!