In Loving Memory...

Last week on Thursday July 25th, I received a call from my best friend Ndidi. This was one of those calls no one ever wants to get. She called me to tell that her dad passed. He had been sick for some time, but we all thought he was getting better. Either way, this is one of those things I don't think anyone can really prepare themselves for. We cried together but thankfully we were also able to have some moments of laughter. Didi, along with all my family members always call me out about looking crazy, which I'll admit, I do sometimes... Lol. We had to FaceTime with our IPads because her phone died while we were talking. I was so glad it was one of my crazy days because as soon as she saw me, we both busted out laughing. If I had ever been glad to be looking busted, that was the first time.

Yesterday morning, while at the doctor's office for my check up, I looked through my Facebook news feed to pass time. I came across Didi's status that she had put up a few hours early and I found myself holding back tears sitting in that room. I wanted to share the message. I've read it several times and I just think it's such an awesome tribute to her dad. I'm sure if he could read this, even though his time here is over, if he did only one thing right, he would be satisfied knowing he was a great father and I think that is more than enough.

Here it goes...

Daddy,

I really do not know where to begin. The fact that I will never get to hear your voice, hug you or tell you I love you one last time has left me brokenhearted. I miss the way you smiled, the way you constantly brought joy to my life, the way you called me 'ndi babe' when we spoke, the way you influenced me positively and made me always want to make you proud. I THANK YOU for so many things daddy, but here are just a few; 

I thank you for making me learn the times table when I was little. Lol. I remember cramming it with dedication, so that I could impress you when I recited them back to you. I lived for those happy smiles!

I thank you for buying me novels because you knew I loved to read. When you would go away for work, you would return with new titles from my favorite author, whoever it was at the moment. It is because of you that I eventually had a large bookshelf at such a young age.

I thank you for always sharing your food with me. Lol! I loved when mommy made you food because it was always some elaborate spread. I loved eating with you and I wish I never stopped doing it when I got older.

I thank you for never being harsh with me whenever I did wrong. Honestly, you never even had to yell daddy because the gentle way you approached my shortcoming, whatever it was at the moment, always tore my heart apart and made me cry a million tears. You showed me that screams and yells, are not the only way to go.

I thank you for teaching me about my family history and telling us stories about how you grew into the wonderful man you became. You were a rock daddy. You worked very hard to give us a great life.

I thank you for being a great conversationalist on celebrities! We loved to talk about what a particular celebrity was up to and discuss award shows! Lol. I admit, it was a unique thing to have in common with my dad and I LOVED it! You were also passionate about politics! You could probably talk about it for hours if you had the chance.

I thank you for showing me the world at such a young age. You loved to travel and loved to take your kids with you.

I thank you for ALWAYS buying presents. You loved buying us things and I think it gave you immense joy to see our faces light up when we received our treasures. We always knew that we were thought of constantly.

I thank you for teaching me the value of selflessness. You were the kindest man I have ever known. You gave and gave and gave, and never expected anything in return. I remember becoming annoyed whenever you would give people who I felt were taking advantage. I literally wanted to scream that you couldn't see that some of them were just users. But if you did, I don't think you ever cared about that...you were just altruistic that way!

I thank you for always encouraging me, showing me that you were proud of me, and always believing in me. Your words and love really helped shape the woman I have become today.

I thank you for being brave in the beginning and even later, towards the end, when I could hear it taking a toll on you, when I could hear the weakness in your voice, you still remained brave. We were so far from each other, but you still struggled to hear our voices until you couldn't anymore. I never thought death was a possibility. I never thought that you could slip away and disappear forever in a split second. 

Daddy I have wondered if I will ever think about you again without wanting to burst into tears, without my heart feeling like its being ripped apart or without having this lump form in my throat.

REVELATION 21:4

And he shall wipe away every tear from their eyes, and there shall no longer be any death; there shall no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain; the first things have passed away...

You were the greatest father in the world and I will never forget you daddy. I love you with all my heart and I am so blessed to have called you father on this earth.

P.S. Daddy, I hope you can run really fast in heaven because I intend to leap into your arms as soon as I get there. My angel orientation class will simply have to wait! lol.

Love You,

Ndi Babe

Didi and her dad.

How beautiful.

Rest In Peace Mr. Yadi.

Pampered

During the past two weeks, hubby travelled for work out of the country and while he was gone, I was blessed with royal treatment. He left very early on a Monday morning, but the Sunday night before he left, our pastor and his wife stopped by to visit. This was the second time hubby was going out of the country for work, but the first time he was gone for only a week. Even though everyone was worried about me taking care of MoMo alone in my expecting state, I assured them all that I would be fine. However, this time around they were all more worried because I was further along and hubby was going to be gone longer.

The reason for our pastor's visit with his wife was to present me with two options:


Option 1- Move in with them for the 2weeks hubby was out and be catered to totally.

Option 2- Their daughter would come over every couple of days and help me with whatever I needed done in the house.

Trust me when I say I didn't think for too long before choosing option 1. I decided I was going to move in with them the next day. Lol. Hubby was very surprised I agreed to an option at all not to even talk of agreeing to a move-in option. I usually don't like to bother people, but they were offering and heaven knows I needed the break, so I took it! Living with the pastor and his family was so much fun and very relaxing. The pastor dropped off and picked up MoMo from daycare every day she went, his wife gave her a bath every evening and got her ready and fed her every morning before daycare. I had a meal waiting for me every day I got off from work. I mean it was amazing! Besides the help I was getting, it was great to have company. I watched a good number of movies with the family and also had some really good conversations. MoMo didn't miss out on the fun, they have three very well-mannered kids, ages 13(girl- Eriife), 8(boy- Mofe), and 7(boy- Ini). MoMo had a blast with all of them, especially Ini. They formed a very special bond and it was really cute watching them interact. They also stuffed their home with snacks they knew she would like. 

Unfortunately MoMo got a little sick the second week and the pastor's wife and I caught the bug too. I felt so bad because even though she was not feeling well she still took care of MoMo and made sure I got rest. I got very sick and had to leave work on Wednesday, and I called out Thursday and Friday. I felt miserable! I'm still not fully recovered but I'm way better. Thank God! They took care of the both of us so much, it really touched my heart. 

I am so grateful to God for surrounding me with such selfless people and thankful to the pastor and his family for their love. So many things they did for us within those two weeks that I didn't mention, such as me putting the kids to work! I mean they ran so many errands around the house for me such as getting a drink of water every time I asked! May God bless their hearts. Lol. Just so so thankful. Hubby got back Friday night, so we're back home now. I about sent him back. Lol. They raised the bar though so he's working hard these days. Ha! 

BTW! Yesterday, I marked 3months working at Wally World! Look at that! How time flies huh? I'm learning SO much, probably more than my brain can take. Lol. It's all goody though, very thankful for an awesome opportunity!

We went out to a lake here the weekend we stayed with them for  a baptism for 2 church members and had some good fun while out there!

I'm Pregnant!

Well Duh... Right? Let me explain...

Even though this is my second pregnancy, I feel pregnant for the first time. The whole time I carried MoMo, I felt great. I never had morning sickness and I never threw up. As a matter of fact, nothing strange happened or changed from what I had been used to prior to getting pregnant. Towards the last maybe four weeks, yes I'll agree, I moved very slow, I got really dark(you could literally use white chalk on my neck), I gained a lot of weight even though a lot of people thought I only gained three pounds(yeah right!), my face was swollen(I hated taking pictures), so were my feet(none of my shoes fit), and my fingers(I stopped wearing my wedding ring pretty early). Besides physical changes, I felt really good.

However, with this pregnancy, my my has it been a different story. Thankfully, I didn't have any morning sickness or throwing up either with this pregnancy. But, for the first three months in the evenings, I was always very irritable and sometimes nauseous. I got very tired and some evenings hubby really had to tip toe around me(poor baby, lol). In the morning though, my energy was up full force and I was back kicking. That feeling like I said lasted for only about three months and I'm glad it passed. As the weeks have progressed, I have a lot more tired days. I still feel great but life just moves in extra slow motion. I don't want to do anything and I just want to lay around and be pampered. Being the busy bee that I am though, I still get everything I need done around the house and on my to-do checklist regardless of how long it takes because I just can't help it! Lol. Funny thing is that, this time around the physical changes compared to the last pregnancy are totally flipped. My skin tone hasn't changed much, my feet are not swollen, my face...ehh(getting there but not all the way), my wedding ring still fits and wait for it... this is the big one... I haven't gained a lot of weight at all! For weeks, I was so scared to find out how much I weighed because I just knew I was huge(I mean I feel HUGE). I finally weighed myself about a week ago and I couldn't believe the number I was looking at. I was too happy!!!

Now you know why I haven't had up a post in a while. I think about it, but I just don't want to! Lol. I do thank God for my strength though. It really blows my mind sometimes how far I push myself. #blessed

Two weekends ago at a wedding. 

June Loves

We've gotten through the first half of the year! Isn't that amazing? Hope things are falling in place as you planned/hoped/expected... and if they're not, it's time to go back to the drawing board and get on your knees. Nothing is impossible, don't get discouraged!

Well, last year it dawned on me that a lot of the people I really love were all June babies! I thought it was pretty crazy and I just came to the conclusion that November and June babies have a special connection!

I just wanted to shout out to these wonderful people that mean a whole lot to me!

4th. My darling Mobooski started it off! My little bff in the making :) 

11th. My darling nephew Uyi was born. I can see us having a special bond! 

14th. My bff Needidi! I met Ndidi my Sophomore year in college and over the years, our friendship has blossomed. One of these days, I will dedicate a post to her, she's pretty interesting!

14th. Elizabeth! She calls me beauty. Always makes me blush :) I developed a bond with Elizabeth last year after having MoMo. She has a little Mr. handsome. We clicked instantly and have been developing a great friendship since.

17th. My darling aunty Sumbo! I'd like to consider her my mentor. She's the coolest grown up ever! Love her bunches!!!

23rd. I met Vida through hubby and she has been nothing but a joy! She truly is a beauty queen in every sense of the word. Very pleasant and always classy! Love her!

29th. Phoebe Whoebe! We were roommates in college and she is just like a big sister to me. If you follow my blog, I had posts about her bridal shower and wedding last year. BTW it was her 30th!!! Grown and sexay! 

There you have it!

I pray the blessings of God over your lives. You will live long and fulfilled lives and we will always celebrate each other in Jesus Name. Amen! Cheers!